CONSENT

What is effective consent?
Effective Consent means words or actions that show a voluntary agreement to engage in mutually agreed-upon sexual activity.

Effective Consent:

• Requires Communication Words must be used to establish consent. Only a comprehensible, unambiguous, verbal, positive and enthusiastic statement of consent for each sexual act qualifies as consent. The absence of no does not equal yes. Only YES means YES.
• Must Entail An Uninfluenced, Unimpaired yes Effective consent cannot be established if one person if pressuring the other- this can be physical, verbal or emotional pressure. Influence can also mean the effects of alcohol or other drugs. If someone is asleep, passed out, has consumed alcohol or drugs, or is in any other way impaired, she or he cannot give legal consent.
• Happens one step at a time – every time You must establish effective consent for every sex act and each time you hook up. Consenting to one sex act does not mean consenting to any other sex act. Prior sexual activity or an ongoing relationship cannot substitute for effective consent. Ask every time.
• Is free to be taken back at any time At any point during a sexual encounter both partners should be free to change their mind. If one partner changes his or her mind, then the other partner must respect the decision to limit or end sexual contact.

Asking for consent is awkward! Do I really have to ask every time? YES! Effective consent protects you and your partner. You might think you know what your partner is or is not willing to do. You might even be right. Nonetheless, you still have to ask EVERY TIME. Your partner has the right to consent to or refuse a sexual act at any time – including when you are enjoying other consensual sexual activity. If you are not used to asking for or giving verbal consent it may feel awkward at first. Do it anyway! You will get better at it.

If you want to discuss issues around consent, feel free to contact Elizabeth Nelson, Coordinator for Student Development – Violence Prevention at 336-278-5009 or through email at enelson12@elon.edu.